How To Identify True Friends
It is said that true friends can be counted with the fingers of one hand. They are always by our side, listening to us and bringing out our best. They are rare. In this article, we talk about how to identify true friends.
What do true friends do?
It is quite easy to distinguish true friends from those who are by our side only for their own benefit or hidden motives, for true friends do things for us that others would not do. If there are a handful of people in your life who do the things we’ll list next, you’re very lucky!
1. They raise your self-esteem
When you’re on the ground, true friends let you complain to them, shout, cry, and talk for hours. And at the end, they highlight all your talents and strengths to make you feel better. Good friends always strive to elevate your self-esteem and mood, even in your miserable moments.
2. They support you
Regardless of your decisions, true friends will support you on the path you choose, even if they don’t agree with you. They give their support with a message, spending the afternoon with you, a hug, or some gesture, such as giving a gift or a card.
3. They listen to you 100%
This is one of the main features of true friends. When we say they are listening, we mean that they are paying attention to everything you say, whether it be self-repetitive or pessimistic, or even if you are overwhelmed with happiness or full of anger. True friends can be by your side for hours (or at the other end of the phone) listening to you complain, barking at someone, laughing, telling a story with all the details, etc.
4. It is easy to be with them
When you’re with a good friend, you don’t have to pretend to be something other than what you are. With true friends, you don’t have to pretend to do anything or try to impress them. With them, you can talk carelessly about your words, you can show them your true self and still feel comfortable, just like at home, without masks.
5. They will help you
When you need to make an important decision and hesitate, you’re probably calling your best friend to hear his or her opinion. Or maybe you’re asking for his help when you need to do something you’re not prepared for.
True friends give us valuable suggestions based on how they see the situation themselves. They are the listening ear as well as giving hugs and reaching out when we need them. They also help us rediscover ourselves when we feel a little lost. If things don’t go well for whatever reason, they’re our “stable rock”.
6. They set aside time for you
True friends don’t come up with excuses when we want to spend time with them or chat because they always want to be with us. It is true that we all have our responsibilities, work and things to do. But true friendship is recognized by the fact that the other always finds time for you.
Phrases used by true friends:
- “I have a quarter of the time to have coffee with you between work and lectures.”
- “I have to see a doctor. On the way, I would quickly greet you. ”
- “Don’t plan anything for Thursday night, we’re going out to eat.”
If someone, on the other hand, is constantly busy, always cancels plans, or is impossible to see, the reason may be that he or she is not interested in setting aside time for your friendship. It doesn’t have to mean anything bad, maybe he’s just going through a difficult phase of life. But most likely, you shouldn’t consider your friendship absolute.
7. They will tell you the truth
It is very important to surround yourself with honest and sincere people. There is no point in keeping in your life people who only tell you what you want to hear. If an outfit doesn’t look good on you, a true friend will tell you. If he thinks your boyfriend / girlfriend is not right for you, he will not be able to hide it. If he thinks you’re making a bad decision, he’ll be the first to tell you.
Honesty is very important in all relationships (friendships, relationships, work). For this reason, you should keep around friends who always tell the truth even if it happens.
8. They respect you
True friends don’t “shackle” you so you’re always by their side. They understand that you have other responsibilities and people with whom you spend time. They also respect your desire to be alone, whatever the reason for your will. Respect is a very important thing in a friendship. It includes e.g. respect for another’s own state.
9. They will forgive you
True friends know that you are just human and you make mistakes. So if you show remorse for something you said or did, they will have no problem forgiving you. True friendship includes forgiving mistakes from the heart and prioritizing your wonderful relationship and time together.
10. They make you a better person
If you want to make true friends, you have to learn to give. You can’t get something if you’re not yourself willing to give the same. Friendship does not work if only the other party sees the effort; both are responsible for the growth of the relationship and the development of the emotional bond. This applies to all relationships: relationships, relationships between family members, the work environment, etc.
If you want to keep true friends by your side, you have to work in front of them. This means that you can’t always be the one who speaks, but you also have to listen. You have to be respectful and honest, help a friend to be a better person. And you have to stay by his side in all situations and tell him your own point of view to help him grow.
If you do all this in front of your friends, you will become a reliable person for them with whom they always want to spend time.
